I’ve waited a long time, and now I’m ready. How should we celebrate?
I’ve had 2 other names in the past, my birth name, and then my ex-husbands name when I was married. Long story short, I’ve been divorced now for just over 3 years, right before I moved back to San Diego, and I never changed my name.
I used to be afraid of people knowing I was divorced.
I used to think it meant I was a failure, a quitter, and *gasp* undesirable.
I even dated someone for 2 months and never told him I had been married OR divorced because I was so afraid of judgement. Damn, that’s embarrassing to admit. While I look back on that now with self empathy and a little hilarity, I also recognize that even though I’ve come a long way, I still have that name.
And you know what? IT DOESN’T FEEL RIGHT!
Names have power.
What kind of repercussions are there when you feel like an imposter in your own name?
So this month I went to the courthouse and filed for a legal name change to Athena Rosette. Rosette is my middle name by birth, and since being back in San Diego, I have used it in all of my social media pages. With this name I feel powerful, I feel beautiful, I feel authentic, and I’m ready for it to be official. I choose this. This is who I am. My final court date is coming up at the end of this month. It’s almost official!
So, I ask you again, how should we celebrate?